4 top things you should avoid on your first date
Relationship is a product of good friendship but it could become sour when it's taken for granted. Concerning dating, I don't see anything bad there. However, we need to be very careful with how we deal with people during our sojourn. While it's good to go on a date, it could also become boring for a whole day if certain things are not taken into consideration.
You could be wrong in terms of expectations on your first date because initial impressions can be influenced by nerves, appearances, or miscommunication. Research from USATODAY says, people often project idealized versions of their potential partners based on limited knowledge, which might not align with reality.
Given this, I have taken my time to explain a few nuggets while you may be wrong on your first date with that special person. Take a look below :
Being too forward:
if you have a date with someone, you don't have the right to order anything unless your host initiates it. If you have an objection to it, there is no crime in saying your mind. But you have to be very careful in doing that. However, you wouldn't be surprised how some ladies yelled at their accomplices. They tend to order out of pocket without knowing the budget before coming there. This could bring embarrassment to the man if care is not taken diplomatically.
When you always want to be in charge:
Legendary Nollywood actor, Morgan Freeman once said "You learn nothing from this world if you think you are always right " Going by this, you can never make your date, either the first or second whatsoever a great one if you sound domineering. You may be happy, agreed! But that doesn't give you the sole power to take the leads always. You have to know what your partner wants. It brings about unity and strong bonds rather than hatred or regret of going out together that day or beyond.
When you assume that your host must be the sole speaker:
There is no doubt that we have individual differences, some are extroverts while others are introverts, but regardless of that, you need to make the outing an interesting one. Bring out a good topic that could engender more social interaction not intrusion of privacy and regret.
Create a chance to hear each other out. But if you assume that, the whole talk should be done by a single person, it could make your whole session a boring one. Even if you will not talk much, give him or her some attention. Make sure you face your business. Stop focusing on other people around you.
Human beings are social animals which can only get better when they are surrounded by people who care about them, not those who disregard their efforts. So, when next you are going on a date with that special person, always take note of the following in order to make your outing a memorable one. Hope you will do that? Trust you!
Delving Into Your Sexual History
Verywellmind said, that even if you’re very comfortable discussing your sexual history, your date may not be quite as keen to discuss your past sex life or divulge details regarding theirs.
“Talking about sex or your sexual history…can sabotage the relationship,” Dr Trotter says. “Sex is very personal for most people and discussing it on a first date is a red flag.”
If physical intimacy is important to you in a relationship, you can simply mention that fact and allow a conversation to flow from there. Feel it out and don’t push boundaries if your date feels uncomfortable with the topic.
